Time, could be your ally or your worst enemy. You keep counting on it when you really want to escape for example, a really bad situation that you’re in. You just keep telling yourself: “Well time heals everything, I just have to be patient.” Time brings changes, whether you like them or not. We keep forgetting sometimes that with time, we change as well, we become the people we are meant to be. This also applies to friendships. Some are meant to last forever, others are just going to disappear at the most unexpected times.
I was attending my childhood friend’s birthday party a couple of days ago. We have a really strange relationship when we tease each other(not because of romantic reasons ), fight like an old married couple and also care about the other in our own way. There was one moment in the past when it was just me and him and I loved the fact that I was a person that he could rely on to share secrets, insecurities and dreams. I thought that it was going to be like this forever and that our unique friendship will last forever. I guess i was wrong partially.
While his mom was bringing the cake, I looked around the room and saw all of the people he now has in his life, the people he now puts his trust in.We all sang happy birthday to him and wished him happiness. Seeing all those people wishing him well made me realise that I was no longer that person he always went to when he needed someone to talk. He no longer tells me anything really. Sure when we hang out sometimes and it all seems like before but in reality it’s nothing like it. It is bitter sweet to see that friendship changing. I sometimes find myself wishing it was all like before, that he didn’t push me away, that he still entrusts me with all his thoughts. One good thing that came out of this is his new friends. I always wished for him to be surrounded by people who actually cared and I really hope that his new friends are there for him.
Time changes everything, and even though we may lose some things in the process all you need to remember is that everything happens for a reason.It’s never going to be the same but you have to accept the idea that maybe this needed to happen. Each challenge sets your path towards the person you are going to be. Don’t ask “why”, just trust that everything is happening in order for you to grow.